Finding Beauty in the Ordinary
On July 11th, Amherst Community Connections had a incubator workshop on the topic of finding beauty in the ordinary. Hwei-Ling started out with an ice breaker activity relating to this topic. The activity was to say something creative about a name or nickname that you have, and to share ways you find beauty in dark times. Hwei-Ling started us off talking about how she was dealing with some issues at work and how she was getting through them. Her telling of her life problems was very personal and was something that most people in the room could relate too. Specifically, everyone has issues that they believe are too hard to overcome. Hwei-Ling set off the meeting by lighting a path to happiness in a dark time. To help her find beauty in difficult times she tries to see the totality and every single angle of a person.
Everyone else in the room had very interesting takes on their names and how they find beauty in dark times. One response that was very prevalent in the discussion was nature as a way to cope with hard times. Many participants talked about sunsets or taking long walks through greenery. Personally I very much enjoy hiking as a way to destress or just find some happiness. Being outdoors in the heart of nature, away from all of the hustle and bustle of the real world is something that can help many people if they are feeling down. Dr. Rick also talked about how one has to be honest but in the right way when talking to people. A person needs patience in order to see the beauty in a person or an inanimate object before they can dismiss it. Patience is something I am very attuned to, as my Dad is a very impatient, stubborn person at times, and it is his way or the highway. After seeing people like my Dad, I try myself to be more patient and willing to see things the other way even if I do not like it (I’m not trying to bash my dad-he’s actually a great person).
Patricia enlightened us on the fact that there is beauty that is overlooked in many of the things we do, specifically, in nature, art, and even looking into someone’s eyes. I have also found that looking at someone while talking or just making eye contact with someone is so meaningful. It gives more of a connection to an interaction with someone. Also Jennifer showed us that things happen for a reason and you have to look more towards the future, not being so focused on what could have been. Also some of the participants had things they they were looking forward to like online school to become a early childhood educator or a child that they loved. Personally, one of my friends has always asked what I was looking forward to in the future even if it was something very small. Sometimes, when she asked, I felt like my life wasn’t the greatest at that moment. However, when I really thought about, it there was always something I could look forward to or cherish like my dog, going on runs, my wonderful friends and family, or music.
After this discussion we were all asked to bring up something that we found beautiful in the room. Many of us looked around and found objects or ideas that we hadn’t thought of before we were asked this question. Many people in the room brought up the artwork and other objects which were hanging up on the wall. In addition, someone brought up that there is a great deal of beauty in people themselves, specifically with the different experiences or ideas they imprint on others. Patricia talked about Chief Seattle and his message that everyone is connected, and that we are but one thread. Many of these points were things that I personally related to. I would say there is a great deal of beauty in the community that these incubator meetings provide. Community is so beautiful because it brings people together and shows that we are social beings that need others to survive. Many people feel down sometimes or almost all the time because they feel that they do not have a community they can go to that is free of judgement or hostility. Music for me has been a source of community because in a musical ensemble we are all unique individuals who are coming together for one purpose: to make a beautiful work of art.
Happiness can be found in even the hardest of times. This is something that we must remember at all times.
ACC hosts free incubator workshop on Wednesdays from 10 am to 11:30 am. Free lunch for all. For a list of the weekly incubator workshops, go to ACC's website, http://www.amherstcommunityconnections.net/new-events/